Sunday, May 9, 2010

"Of Determination and Desperation"

At some point in a relationship in your life, we will come to realize that you have done too much and gave up a lot for someone or something, that the only next possible step for it not to do more irreparable damage and cause unbearable pain, is to just STOP and leave them alone.

It’s just too difficult to know when the road to determination ends and the path to desperation begins especially when you are very much consumed by emotions. It’s so painstaking to make your heart understand that what is truly yours would eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be. And so you justify, you reason out, and you cover up all the faults, all the lies just so you may be able to continue dreaming for that bliss you’ve set your sight on for that relationship. But until when can you do that? Until when can your heart hold on to what is clearly not meant to be? Until when can you lie to yourself and to your partner?

“In real life, love has to be possible. Even if it is not returned right away, love can only survive when the hope exists that you will be able to win over the person you desire” ~ Paulo Coelho

It’s a different kind of high when you’re in a relationship that shares a common warmth, common craziness, and common depth. Of course, there ain’t a perfect one. But there shouldn’t be stress in keeping it, with both your eyes and hearts open for each other’s imperfections. Meaning, it should not be a one-way alley…it’s a two-way, give and take process. From start to end.

"No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.” — Matthew 10:32

It’s hard to tell your hearts to slow down and think when you are in love. It’s like a runaway train that spells “disaster” if you try to stop it. And more often than not, logic makes no sense if you are obsessed and fixated with LOVE! But you can see things through…if you’ll begin to respect and love yourself as much as you do your object of affection. By then you can make your choice. Decide not because you love the person, nor because he loves you…decide because there should be LOVE in between—same warmth, same craziness, same depth. By then you will know, which road you’re standing on and what to take next.

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  1. aaii,, nkaka lerky! harhar... its desperation sa part ko,, thats why i just stop.. love will find a way.. char! hahaha